The Age Of Weddings
The age of weddings is a term that I came up with early in my adult life, but I first referenced it in the Season 3 Premiere, Hope In Crisis. That installment was my aunt Eva’s wedding, the first wedding installment I wrote. This was the explanation I wrote: “Most people in their life experience something that I call the age of weddings.” You know, that period of time when all of your friends are getting married. Eva is 27, and I'm about to turn 23. Because we are relatively close in age, and because I'm old enough to really enjoy weddings now, Eva and Zach’s wedding was going to kick off my “age of weddings.”
Two housekeeping things before we continue. 1. Just as a refresher, I was talking about Eva and Zach’s wedding in the past tense because the wedding that happened was a Zoom wedding since it happened in April 2020. 2. Something that I hadn’t noticed, until I lifted that quote was I’m only going to be a year older than Eva was at her wedding at mine… which is crazy conceptually.
Expanding upon the Age Of Weddings concept a little bit, at the time of Hope In Crisis, I believed that while everyone’s personal Age Of Weddings doesn’t necessarily end with their own wedding, it is the crown jewel of their personal Age Of Weddings. As a result, I have always planned on calling the season that I get married in The Age Of Weddings.
Now, despite there being about 5 years between Eva and Zach’s wedding and Paige and my engagement, my view of weddings didn’t really change. While I like the concept of the Age Of Weddings, its simplicity left me a little ignorant to how complicated wedding planning can be.
While Paige was/is the definitely more aware of the reality of the situation, I think heading into my proposal, I believed that I was prepared for the shift from Paige's boyfriend to her husband, and I was viewing fiancé life as a kind of an in-between phase, as opposed to an entirely new relationship dynamic. So when the time came for us to actually start planning a wedding in early June, I became very overwhelmed as the reality of wedding planning hit, and as a result, we got very behind with planning.
I stood at the altar, and Paige walked down the aisle. Our priest said, “If anyone objects to this marriage, speak now or forever hold your pe-“ Before he had finished, my ex, who I got a restraining order against, ran through the door.
I woke up with a start at about 3:00 am on Tuesday, January 13, 2026. By this point Paige and I had had a couple of meetings with our parents, and we had a rough outline for the wedding, but it was still not anywhere near where we had initially planned to be with the wedding as close as it is.
I don’t have a real ending to this installment. I am aware that everybody who is planning a wedding is going to feel at least some level of stress, and despite how cliché it is, my anxiety, taking the form of my crazy ex, seems kind of fitting. Nonetheless, I am happy that my friends and family have Paige and my backs, as we start this next chapter!
Have a Greattastic day and be safe!
J. Mitchie Ulibarri, SBT
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